Author Archives: JB Radcliff

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    Letting go of stress.

    Emotional and financial health. Letting go of stress.

    Category:Wellness and Fitness

    Your financial health is often linked closely to your sense of self-worth and social positioning. Social economics and how one perceives their status in society is often an underlying emotional trigger waiting to go off. Maybe you have lost a job, a loved one, social connections, or just can’t find your mojo.

    When things get out of control, physical systems of the body tell us we need to take life a little easier. We need to relax, let the tension go out of our shoulders, and lose the worry wrinkles in our foreheads. Just breathe. Stress can take a toll quickly.

    Stress can take a toll quickly

    The thought of losing one’s financial health does have an affect on a person’s well-being. The first response is generally to react emotionally. When we react emotionally, the fall out generally manifests itself in angry outbursts, depression, and low resilience to accepting reality. Depression, which can be common in people with diabetes, because their systems are already easily compromised, are at a great risk for other complications. But learning how to control one’s reactions to stress could very well keep you from going down an unhealthy rabbit hole.

    Helping those we love to recognize the symptoms of stress is critical in helping them to get a handle on the triggers that bring about health related symptoms. Just the words “financial stress” causes some people stress. Just talking about stress in general, makes some people react in odd ways.

    Stress plays a big factor in your overall health. There are a lot of experts out there that give us any number of remedies and cures for how to deal with stress. Finding which remedy works best for you is a process. My hopes are that you have others around you who will act as a support team to help you find just the right remedy or process to gain and keep your health on track.

    Just the word ” stress” can be a trigger for some

    How to make stress your friend, a Ted Talk presentation by Psychologist Kelly McGonigal gives us a comical mechanism for dealing with stress. I liked her no nonsense approach and suggestions on how to start building your own resilience to stressors right away “give out of your own need”.

    Give out of your own need

    Stress has a lot to do with our bodies vital organs, and the health of those organs. It is important to tell your doctor about changes in your mood so that you can discuss treatment options best suited for you. With the help of your doctor, it is possible to feel better with diabetes, heart disease, as well as other illnesses. Working on your own internal senses to build yourself up, and maintain a healthy state of mind is so important to the quality of life. Caring creates resilience, and in turn helps the body to not overreact to stress.

    Take a vacation! Please!

    Therapy is also a great way to talk through those situations that you might be holding onto unnecessarily. Talk Therapy is also great for creating new conversations and opening up doors to collaborations on things you might have wanted to explore but was always afraid to try.

    The fight or flight mechanism which is a built in survival tool becomes unhealthy for our bodies when we are subject to it in a never ending cycle. Learning to deal with stress and make it our friend as Dr. McGonigal suggests, gives us the upper hand, and helps us keep our body chemistries more in line with those of a healthy lifestyle. If you are stressed out over past events, or situations you had no control over, you have to learn to let go of that negativity. Holding onto toxicity will not create a healthy outcome. For those who suffer from health issues, gaining the upper hand over your emotions and thoughts could extend your life. Even add years.

    While I am no expert, I know that by just being kind when you have it in your power to do so, will give you strength in your personal health. The benefits are rewarding.


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    power and knowledge

    Power is not necessarily a position -Power is gained by knowledge.

    Category:Wellness and Fitness

    That old saying “people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks ” – it still resonates today.

    From whatever authority you were given a position for, that same authority has the power to take it away just as quickly. There are those individuals who for whatever reason, seem to take their position too far. They are high above the clouds – lofty and untouchable. Then it happens – the Big Bang!

    Bang!

    There is a big difference in philosophies when it comes to experiencing failure.

    • One person will perceive failure as another opportunity to try again.
    • The next person might perceive failure as the fault of everyone around them, and attempt to appear blameless.
    • We also have those who use failure to drive their ambitions to overrule the ones making the rules.

    No one has ever succeeded by not first experiencing failure of some sort. It’s how you go through the process of failure, and learning to try again that really counts. Integrity and tenacity are the byproducts of thoughtful and responsible preplanning after a major upset in your life.

    By looking at failure as an opportunity to try again you learn to look at general daily occurrences differently. You have learned to listen better, your reactions are more solid, and you appreciate those around you, especially those who lend a helping hand.

    Life sometimes is for the birds. But which type of bird are you? I found this cute, if not insightful video that puts things into context as far as how each of us might deal with failure and our responses to those around us.

    Admit it. At some point in your working life, you wished this bird scenario on someone(s)! You are human after all, and not a bird. So hopefully we all have had to learn to teach, guide, and listen, instead of lashing out, demeaning, and demoralizing those who disagree with our way of thinking.

    Collaboration with others comes from exploring opportunities “together”, and setting up systems that keep potential risk and failure away. Collaboration can help keep us all from looking like a bunch of birds on high wire.

    0-10 Power is not necessarily a position -Power is gained by knowledge.Power is not necessarily a position. Power is gained by knowledge. A position on the wire of success doesn’t mean you will stay there. Sometimes the greatest knowledge to lead and command comes from the ground up. It is where you learn that failure is another opportunity to try again. You need to be connected to the moment and then go after your desired outcome. Everyone onboard needs to have the same goal.

    Power is not necessarily a position. Power is gained by knowledge.

    It is easy to lash out at an opponent in aggravation. But, it is a success to win them over as allies. Equally balanced and on the same team.

    Power can be gained from the ground up. Many an operation has been taken over by the power at the bottom. Those who turn the wheels and write the reports have more control than you think. That doesn’t mean you allow them to override your authority or pick on other members of the team. Far from it. What it does give you is an opportunity to do a system check, collaborate, and acknowledge. It’s goal setting time.

    If power is not necessarily a position, but rather something that is gained by knowledge. I think it would be better to use knowledge, and invite others to the table.


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    Goals - Removing Obstacles

    Goals – Removing Obstacles

    Category:Wellness and Fitness

    Goals

    Where are you in alignment with your goals? Are you at the bottom, midway, or almost to the top? Maybe you have reached that goal. Or you could be one of those people who move from one self-satisfying goal to another. Is what you’re doing today, moving you closer to where you want to be? No matter where you are in transition to accomplishing a goal, there are certain lessons that tend to be consistent along the way. You either learn the lessons that will help you be more successful or you don’t.

    Here’s a hint if you are uncertain of your goals. The voice of enthusiasm has a lot to do with where you will end up.

    Great equalizer

    You can engage others, and motivate them, but with all the transferring of knowledge – don’t allow them to overcome you. There are those who believe that they have the power to overcome you. The more you show and guide them, the more they use that knowledge as a weapon.  It’s unfortunate – but some people are not hardwired to be grateful and appreciative. True!

    It is okay to set boundaries, and set them early. It is also okay to put things aside and allow people to grow with the current knowledge you impart to them, until you come to a point where more knowledge is necessary. Like a scaffolding tool you go upward one step at a time.

    It is important to take the time to learn so that there is an equality in thought and processes within your working environment. Knowledge is a great equalizer. Too much too soon can become problematic. Life is not a scorecard to one-up each other. Back up your guidance with a voice of enthusiasm. Sell enthusiasm to others. Do away with any hidden scorecards.

    Life is not a scorecard. Life is based on what you give. ~dhar mann

    Most seasoned employers have experienced dealing with an employee that has gained too much knowledge too soon.  The outcome is that they run around trying to do everyone else’s job for them. You the trainer then have to reign in the rouge employee and set new limits, plus deescalate any anger that still lingers in the ranks. It’s leaves a sore spot for a while.

    When a Band-Aid isn’t enough

    There are those times when anger can be toxic, and you get left to clean it up.  You have to be on your feet with this one. Immediately stick that toxicity in a barrel and properly label it (Lessons Learned), then ship it someplace safe where no one else can be harmed by it. Knowledge is power – I get it. But rein that knowledge in correctly, and disperse it with conciseness. Sometimes you find that it isn’t higher knowledge that employees are seeking. What they are needing instead is coaching. “A pat on the back”. Many already have the skills, they just need the coach or mentor to say “good job”.

    Knowledge is power – I get it. But rein that knowledge in correctly, and disperse it with conciseness

    We all dread annual reviews. Doesn’t matter if we are giving them or receiving them. Anxiety starts a month before and lasts for a month afterwards or longer. You say the word annual review and people revert to living life on eggshells. Reading on a thread regarding Productivity Pyramid and Employee Performance I noticed one comment from a gentleman named Lex Watterson, that stood out. It summed up the entire process.  “An annual review can be like an autopsy: you are examining the body of work to see why the patient died. Frequent coaching sessions are like diet and exercise. They contribute to improvement”.

    An annual review can be like an autopsy: you are examining the body of work to see why the patient died. Frequent coaching sessions are like diet and exercise. They contribute to improvement. ~ Lex Watterson

    Boredom.

    Boredom can always be overcome by filing your emails. That includes your sent files (LOL).   It is interesting to see how much work can be generated and how quickly boredom can escalate to “I’m busy”.  Just clean up your inbox. You might also find some stuff you missed.

    Here is another one. Create your digital filing system so that it is easily accessible and noticeable. If you have others who can help you do that – fine. But you better have some type of filing system for those items that you don’t want to lose or neglect. Voice why it is important to double check your email account. It is not open for discussion – its business. Sometimes you get paid to be bored.

    Open for debate and discussion

    Debate and discussion are two different things all together. Choosing which communications you are willing to openly allow discussion upon, or even debate, is tricky. Maintaining consistency and conciseness are important, or your discussions can go south quickly. When you find yourself in the teeth of debate – how much collusion is there against you? How do you reign it back in? How do you end the debate and bring it back to a normal level of discussion? Set your boundaries at the beginning. Be willing to take a stand and end the matter. Look at where you have come from:

    • Goals
    • Great equalizer
    • When a Band-Aid isn’t enough
    • Boredom

    I deliberately left out gossip in the list of things above. That is the first thing I want others to understand – not the last. It just doesn’t have a place. It’s like discussing your business matters with your competitor.

    You have done what you can. You’ve set up systems to help keep track of important details, and everyone has a job. What’s missing now?  I’ll tell you.

    Voice of enthusiasm

    When you become the voice of enthusiasm, things start to change. Change the world by the size of your heart. We are all human beings. We all want to hear those words of encouragement. Set limits, be fair, and notice others. Talk to the janitor as you do the manager – same level, same respect. Ship toxicity away from your environment, and replace it with coaching and understanding. Don’t neglect training. Training is key.

    Listen to your people. But be willing to take a stand and end a matter. Don’t allow knowledge to become a risk.

    Don’t allow knowledge to become a risk. Be the Voice of enthusiasm instead


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    caring creates resilience

    The very act of caring creates resilience

    Category:Lifestyle

    Stress plays a big factor in your overall health, we all know that. There are many experts which give us any number of remedies and cures for how to deal with stress. Finding which remedy works for you is a process. My hopes are that you have others around you who will act as a support team to help you find just the right remedy or process to gain and keep your health on track.

    Stress has a lot to do with our body’s vital organs and the health of those organs. It is important to tell your doctor about changes in your mood so that you can discuss treatment options best suited for you. Working on your own internal senses to build yourself up, and maintain a healthy state of mind is so important to the quality of your life. Did you know that the very act of caring creates resilience, and in turn, helps the body to not overreact to stress?

    The very act of caring creates resilience, and in turn helps the body to not overreact to stress.

    Therapy is also a great way to talk through those touchy situations that you might be holding onto unnecessarily. Talk Therapy is also great for creating new conversations and opening up doors to collaborations; about things you might have wanted to explore but were always afraid to try.

    The fight or flight mechanism which is a built-in survival tool becomes unhealthy for our bodies when we are subject to stress or trauma in a never-ending cycle. Taking control over our stress and making it our friend, gives us the upper hand, and helps us keep our body chemistries more in line with those of a healthy lifestyle.

    If you are stressed over past events or situations you had no control over, you have to learn to let go of that negativity. Holding onto toxicity will not create an unhealthy outcome. For those who suffer from health issues, gaining the upper hand over your emotions and thoughts could extend your life. Even add years.

    While I am no expert, I know that by just being kind when you have it in your power to do, will give you strength in your personal life; that includes your health. The benefits are rewarding.

    Be Kind Always

    It doesn’t cost you anything


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    Life and writing – beautiful metaphors.

    Life and writing – beautiful metaphors.

    Category:Education

    Life and writing – beautiful metaphors.

    I wholeheartedly enjoy the ability to write and create my own materials in any situation I find myself in. Sure, I can write for the other guy, but when it’s just for my own pleasure, I like to give myself the opportunity to research and design materials based on my own creative needs, my own passions.

    The same holds true for those of us who present to live audiences.

    The same holds true for those of us who present in person, to live audiences; like teachers, lecturers, and public personalities, etc. It doesn’t matter which field you may be presenting on – all that really matters is that you enjoy what it is you are doing. You use life as your platform for new ideas and concepts. A platform that others may not be able to achieve.

    I have witnessed what technology has done in the lives of those around me, and it has motivated me to want to continue to advance my own training skills using that same technology to help others learn how to reach their goals, and embrace life. Learning is not all about self-indulgence. In fact, learning is more about giving of yourself, and the ability to use your skills in an effective manner to help others reach their true potential.

    Sure, learning is a philosophical journey – one that trains our minds to think in a more rational, clear, and meaningful way. It also teaches us to dream.

    The ability to use your skills in an effective manner to help others reach their true potential

    Regardless of what field we find ourselves in, we are all lifelong learners. We should embrace that – and learn as much as we can, as long as we can- in as many fields as we would like to explore.

    I may never be a nuclear physicist or even a good cook, but I might read a book about it, or attend training or a lecture. I’m given that opportunity to learn because someone else took the time to write about what life has shown them The experience I gain from their thoughts and passions provides me with the ability to be able to hold a decent conversation with someone like themselves. Knowing what questions to ask is important too.

    The caveat for me in training others is that “I am an explorer”. I embrace the idea that life, designing, and training are beautiful metaphors that need discovery. You need to go out there and conquer your fears of that job, that relationship, that test, or even your presence on LinkedIn – whatever cranks your boat. Take an online class, attend a lecture, invite a public speaker to your business or educational facility.

    Are you an explorer? Join me – we’ll explore together.

    Life and writing are beautiful metaphors that shape our perspective and teaches us new concepts. The real beauty comes when you take that life-changing experience and write about it – thus teaching others about the journey.

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