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    business on the rocks

    Business walk on the Rocks.


    I watched a Ted Ex video the other day about chat walks. Taking your business meetings and making them outside meetings. Inspired by this talk, one has only to think about some of the following items:

    • decide on the location of the walk
    • the length of time available to walk
    • who you will meet with
    • what you will discuss
    • and the weather of course.

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    The amount of stress alone saved in taking a chat walk is worth its weight in gold. It also helps to cut your blood pressure down, beef up your cardio, raise those happy endorphin’s, and bring a level of wellness to your entire body.

    Steve jobs once quoted :

    Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.

    Save a back – your own! You have to get up away from that desk, put the mouse down, lace up a pair of tennis shoes, and head out the door. Find some place, any place, where you can take your meetings to another level; one that risks going outside and breathing in fresh air, and feeling the warm sunshine on your skin. Walking has been proven to enhance your mental health as well as your physical health.

    0-21 Business walk on the Rocks.Moab, Utah Slickrock Bike Trail. During the early spring and fall months, you will see a number of walkers on the bike trail. Great place to take a meeting. Plan for a couple hours in the cool of the morning or evening. Take plenty of water, and don’t forget your sun block.

    I’m headed outside!

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    a gentleman

    What Ever Happened to the term “A Gentlemen’s Agreement?”



    There was a day when men shook hands and agreed a gentlemen’s agreement between two. A man’s word was his honor.  Now days attorneys draft up legal documents that are crafted to look for deception and deceit.  Where has honor gone?

    0-16 What Ever Happened to the term "A Gentlemen's Agreement?"Speaking the truth should never be hard to do. Many preach about truth and justice, yet they drag out an attorney when the truth is directed at them.


    Along with honor comes respect. Respect for your fellow man or woman. Meeting a call to justice to help someone in need. Believing in others, and relying on a friendly hand. Honor, respect, and dignity, are the strength and the armor that uphold strong men and women.


    Integrity – the truth. Integrity is becoming a rare thing. Yet it is something worth fighting to hold on to. No matter how weak your voice may be, you may be the only voice someone else has.  Injustice can overwhelm an individual soul quickly – but with many there is triumph as they come together. Speak the truth. Value integrity above all.

    Not every argument can be won in a court of law. Sometimes a simple “I’m sorry” is all that is needed. Waging war over trivial pursuits never ends well, if at all.

    Sometimes a simple “I’m sorry” is all that is needed.


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    What is important is that you stand up and your voice be heard. Speak about those passions you hold dear inside. Especially when others would keep your voice from being heard if they could. Don’t let fear or intimidation keep you from doing what is right. Your voice might be all it takes to change an empire, regain a friendship, mend a broken heart. But unless you stand up and let your voice be heard – others will steal the soil out from under your feet – the very ground you walk upon.



    0-18 What Ever Happened to the term "A Gentlemen's Agreement?"Rise up, ever so weak – yet strong because you decided to take a stand. Integrity, respect, and honor – there really isn’t any amount of money that can buy those attributes. As human as these attributes are, they will give you a greater sense of value about life, and grace you with a peaceful mind. Without them – anxiety, crippling envy and stress take the very life from your own hands. What are your gains if you aren’t around to enjoy them, or can’t feel satisfaction for the things that you tried to build? Fake friends will praise you in the morning, and damn you in the night.

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    Life is simple. Live with a giving hand, a kind shoulder to lean on, and stand up when integrity demands a voice. Stand up, let your voice be heard.

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    on the ledge

    Overcoming our fears – on the ledge


    Trait theory is focused on recognizing and assessing individual personality characteristics.

    Fear is a trait.

    In talking with a young college student just recently, I learned that she is preparing to present to a group of kids who are incarcerated in a regional detention center in our area. She was trying to determine which methods to use to teach these students about learning, and now asking “questions” is specific to all things in life. At first she was going to use the analogy of a McDonalds Big Mac with Coke and Fries, versus a kid’s burger with no condiments on it, as a representation of future goals of the good life.

    I asked her if her students were Native American. She didn’t know. Were they white? She didn’t know. How about Mexican? She didn’t know. I asked her if any of her students had the ability to rock climb or act as a guide like she does? She didn’t know.

    I suggested that she make her presentation more about herself, and her own personal climbing experiences. She has plenty of video and pictures to present with. She is an avid climber and has experience with being stuck out on a ledge in the middle of the night; lost her food though a crack in which she and one other had just climbed; and her companion had also lost his water. The ledge they were on was part of a climb called The Tombstone. .

    0-14 Overcoming our fears - on the ledgeAs her story goes, slowly with just a headlamp on, she and one other had to climb upward one notch at a time. imagine all you can see is the rope disappearing below you past your headlamps reach. Her focus was maintained on just the area right in front of her, where her lamp shone on the rocks. Her partner, who was on the rope below her, was in the same situation as they pushed upward. They would take short breaks and discuss the climb up the ledge, as she would descriptively warn him about the rock formation and guides he would need to follow. They had to be a team. They had to put trust out on the ledge with them. An 8 hour climb turned into 13 hours, with them stranded on top of the Tombstone, too exhausted to hike down the other side till morning. They were lucky.

    I suggested she use a cultural – historical approach (her own) and draw from everyone’s community value system of “fear”. Fear of the unknown. We all have individual personality traits, and each of us reacts differently to fear, but we all have it – fear. Each culture has it, and each culture has a different approach to dealing with it. The social culture of these young detainees she will be presenting to, dealt with each of them by placing them in a detention center (DT). That was their method of correction and control.

    I recommended she use her story and discuss goals. What ladder will they each need to succeed to get to the next level? What challenges will each of them face? Personality traits don’t count in situations like this. This is dire, and you have to work as a team to get out; to survive. Her objective is how to get this group to bond and work together; and then to help motivate each other. She needs to help them determine what questions will they need to address to set goals and find the ladders.

    “focus on understanding developing individuals and changing communities, making first guesses about patterns and seeking confirmation or disconfirmation to extend what is known” ~Gutierrez

    Her story is a frightening one. But to those young minds locked up inside a juvenile facility, her story is going to be alive and intense with fear – yet motivational in fostering drive and encouragement. It’s the human condition, uncovered and vulnerable.

    I suggested she use this cultural and historical approach (her mountaineering lifestyle), to teach these kids about building ladders (setting goals). Right now each of them is on a ledge (inside DT). They have to make choices; they need to focus on what is right in front of them. Each decision must be cautiously made. The wrong decision and the person on the rope below could bring you down, and vice versa.

    In telling her story she will be able to cross the cultural divide of each participant in the DT center. She will ask the students to work together as a team and find a way out, to help each other off the ledge they are on. They have to be focused and determined. It isn’t possible for one to get out without the other, at least not in this scenario.

    Put them on a ledge, because that is where the lesson is. Is it fear or is it an adventure now?

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    Humility During Adversity1

    Humility During Adversity


    Trying to remain  humble and calm during times of adversity is a tough call. Especially when everyone around you is fighting mad, or suffering from some disappointment somewhere in their career or personal life. A working office environment has emotion and life to it. You are not immune to what goes on there. You also are not immune to the politics inside and outside of your office. It would be nice if we could just shut out the political rethoric – but often it seeps in when we least want it there.

    Add a political campaign cycle to an already fragile office environment and the circumstances are ripe for vindictiveness and strife. If you don’t believe me, just turn on your television set, and come to work the next morning. Many workers are feeling the politician pressures from within and outside. A game of tug-of-war, or tug-of-wills can and often takes place.

    The tug of war within an office environment quite often only succeeds in oppressing those who are in the middle or lower level tiers. Within this tier, is generally the larger chunk of your workforce. They are the ones that get hit with a wave of disenfranchising rhetoric, genuinely laced with arsenic threats and disallowances. It is oppressing.


    What happens within these tug of war zones, is you get hit with lower level workers or middle management dogma.

    You deserve better, we all deserve better, but unfortunately one side does not want to give the call – and the other side  is too afraid you will call. It’s a tug of war, and you are the rope.

    Letti0-11 Humility During Adversityng go of the rope. 

    As a society If we continue on the path we are headed on as a culture – pretty soon everyone will be at odds, because no one can get along. The office environment has become way too toxic, oppressive, and controlling. People want out, and they are leaving in droves.

    When you talk about diversity and equal rights in the workplace, that is easier said than done. People for whatever reason – for just being born into a certain

    family, have a rooted belief system.   Thus their value systems are rooted into the very fabric of who and what they are. It produces their attitudes and ultimately directs their behaviours. It also tends to direct their political as well as religious viewpoints – those come out as behaviours. 0-12 Humility During Adversity

    To say you can desensitize a working population into adopting a value system that is foreign to their belief system, is radical thinking in-and-of-itself. You often find people return to their roots. Roots are safe and comfortable.

    Many workers do play the game of office politics – just to survive. They can walk-the-walk, and talk-the-talk, but they do not hold a common value system with those around them. It is a game, like survivor, only in real life.

    A person’s personal belief system is not always the same as a company’s core value system. Beliefs can separate us from other people, whereas values can unite us for a cause, like a business. A business’s core values are what supports its vision, and helps to shape the culture within, and ultimately form its identity. That is all good – that is the way it should happen. It is what is hidden that often stirs the pot, so to speak.

    What is Hidden?

    Political and religious views, as well as lifestyle preferences are only acceptable at face value to some – and at a very thin surface level. They can only be accepted as far as one’s beliefs allow. Those beliefs can vary to slightly acceptable to greatly acceptable, depending on the individual. Ripping at someone’s long held belief system will not get you far.

    Underneath are the deeply held beliefs (roots) of the individual who may or may not adopt to your core values,  or see your point of view. It then becomes a game of survival or tolerance. At what level is enough – enough?

    Adopting Core Values 

    Posting an employee notice on the wall is only as good as the paper it is written on, unless your core values are solid within your organization.  Some organizations have great success with their employees adopting their core values and visions. Those tend to have a higher moral, and ethical workforce. Others, haven’t learned to adapt to a changing real world environment, and the impact continues to be felt at the base. It takes time – don’t give up.

    At some point, it may become a competitive disadvantage for employers not to seek adjusting its core values.  I acknowledge that there are some businesses that need not change. For once they change they lose their purpose, or it adversely affects  their core values, as well as disrupts their belief system. Let’s talk about that for a moment.


    1. Do your core values remain the same when you go from job-to-job?

    2. Do corporate values change? Have yours changed? Do they need too? What was the outcome of any change, or non-change?

    3. Do you expect to be rewarded for your values? What about your co-worker?

    4. Do your core values present a competitive disadvantage to your company?

    5. What core values do you see others exhibiting? What about your workforce, what do they see you doing?

    6. Does your company’s core values allow you to find a place where you feel “it works for me.”?

    7. Do you ever feel your core values might not work for everyone? How do you deal with that? What if the majority or minority disagree? Are you open to collaboration? When do you end the conversation and give an affirmative answer – yea or nea?

    A lot of businesses are starting to understand that in a global economy you might need to adjust your core values. The corporation itself may need to develop an attitude that is more accepting rather than directing in order to compete.

    With many companies outsourcing and setting up offices in different states, as well as internationally, you need to speak the language of business. But that language may be different than you first thought once you factor in cultural diversity. The first step is acknowledging that cultural diversity exists and that it can be a very good thing.

    See the writing on the wall yet?

    This political year I am seeing splits within many business circles that I have never seen before; that frankly frighten me. Conservatism is no longer conservatism, and liberalism is no longer liberalism. These radically changing mindsets are pouring into the working lives of many. Workers are becoming agitated and depressed. They feel they are becoming disenfranchised, as the splits become more prevalent and the American culture starts to erode. It’s not a good thing. It’s time to heal the split, stop the bleed, and put things right again. Just say “no”.

    There doesn’t seem to be a lot of collaborative efforts in play to help bring a common understanding of the working class needs to the table.  That needs to change. The moderates sounds more like the left in their anger, and the right strikes out with equal annoyance. Politics is a great disruptor – but at what cost to American worker? People are afraid of losing their jobs, and others just want a job.

    To the working class, the political environment has become a war zone, one created to emotionally and psychologically gain control or power over them; to disrupt and seize.  The workforce is concerned that it will become voiceless.  It shouldn’t be a battle to come to terms, and find equitable solutions. Yet, people are angry, some in the violent sense. We as a society need to stop fueling that type of anger.

    I hear the voices coming from working American’s stating, “Damn the establishment!” But what will you have after you have damned your rights into the hole? If you can’t find some level of humility during times of adversity, you will either be confused with the outcome you sought, and/or disillusioned by your own choices as well as the choices of others. Educate yourself and show yourself approved.

    Trying to stay humble during times of adversity is a tough call

    No one wants to lose their job due to politics or adversity. Sometimes remaining humble during adversity is the only thing that gets some people by. But, when you try to put square pegs in round holes, understand this – at some point the game is up.

     Humility is sign of strength not weakness

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    Letting go of stress.

    Emotional and financial health. Letting go of stress.

    Category:Wellness and Fitness

    Your financial health is often linked closely to your sense of self-worth and social positioning. Social economics and how one perceives their status in society is often an underlying emotional trigger waiting to go off. Maybe you have lost a job, a loved one, social connections, or just can’t find your mojo.

    When things get out of control, physical systems of the body tell us we need to take life a little easier. We need to relax, let the tension go out of our shoulders, and lose the worry wrinkles in our foreheads. Just breathe. Stress can take a toll quickly.

    Stress can take a toll quickly

    The thought of losing one’s financial health does have an affect on a person’s well-being. The first response is generally to react emotionally. When we react emotionally, the fall out generally manifests itself in angry outbursts, depression, and low resilience to accepting reality. Depression, which can be common in people with diabetes, because their systems are already easily compromised, are at a great risk for other complications. But learning how to control one’s reactions to stress could very well keep you from going down an unhealthy rabbit hole.

    Helping those we love to recognize the symptoms of stress is critical in helping them to get a handle on the triggers that bring about health related symptoms. Just the words “financial stress” causes some people stress. Just talking about stress in general, makes some people react in odd ways.

    Stress plays a big factor in your overall health. There are a lot of experts out there that give us any number of remedies and cures for how to deal with stress. Finding which remedy works best for you is a process. My hopes are that you have others around you who will act as a support team to help you find just the right remedy or process to gain and keep your health on track.

    Just the word ” stress” can be a trigger for some

    How to make stress your friend, a Ted Talk presentation by Psychologist Kelly McGonigal gives us a comical mechanism for dealing with stress. I liked her no nonsense approach and suggestions on how to start building your own resilience to stressors right away “give out of your own need”.

    Give out of your own need

    Stress has a lot to do with our bodies vital organs, and the health of those organs. It is important to tell your doctor about changes in your mood so that you can discuss treatment options best suited for you. With the help of your doctor, it is possible to feel better with diabetes, heart disease, as well as other illnesses. Working on your own internal senses to build yourself up, and maintain a healthy state of mind is so important to the quality of life. Caring creates resilience, and in turn helps the body to not overreact to stress.

    Take a vacation! Please!

    Therapy is also a great way to talk through those situations that you might be holding onto unnecessarily. Talk Therapy is also great for creating new conversations and opening up doors to collaborations on things you might have wanted to explore but was always afraid to try.

    The fight or flight mechanism which is a built in survival tool becomes unhealthy for our bodies when we are subject to it in a never ending cycle. Learning to deal with stress and make it our friend as Dr. McGonigal suggests, gives us the upper hand, and helps us keep our body chemistries more in line with those of a healthy lifestyle. If you are stressed out over past events, or situations you had no control over, you have to learn to let go of that negativity. Holding onto toxicity will not create a healthy outcome. For those who suffer from health issues, gaining the upper hand over your emotions and thoughts could extend your life. Even add years.

    While I am no expert, I know that by just being kind when you have it in your power to do so, will give you strength in your personal health. The benefits are rewarding.