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    Change is positive

    Winds of Change

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    Winds of Change

     Time changes everything, and we need to be able to re-evaluate our own lives and the direction we are headed in. It doesn’t matter if the direction is one we have selected for ourselves, or one where life itself has lead us there unaware. Sometimes those things that we thought mattered most, are not important any longer. Rather, things that we overlooked or have forgotten from the past come closer to our new reality.

    Change is an emotional experience that reminds us that nothing is permanent. It teaches us to prioritize those things that are really important.

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    Change can mean loss, but it can also mean gaining as well. Changes can impact our lives right out of the blue without any time to accept what is happening to us; nor plan for what will come next. Sometimes you are just thrown into the mire and expected to sink or swim. There is a time of uncertainty where you do not know what is going to happen.

    Dealing with change isn’t always easy. You could try to forget about the change and get used to new items or circumstances. You can choose to Ignore the changes happen in your life. But in the end some level of acceptance has to take place.

    There are a number of factors that increase ones struggle to change. We have to learn that change happens for a reason. We have to learn to teach ourselves the truth. Not all change will have closure, but we have to learn to build those emotional bridges over that portion of our life so we can move past a particular moment in time.

    A number of quotes that emphasize overcoming change are as follows:

    • -Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future ~unknown
    • -The key to change… is to let go of fear ~unknown
    • -Change is the essence of life ~Reinhold Niebuhr
    • -Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become~ Reinhold Niebuhr
    • -Ecclesiastes 3: 1-22 ~The Bible

    Benefits of Change

    Unknown opportunities and new experiences are a benefit that can come from change. While change is inevitable in everything we do, change keeps life interesting, and ensure that bad situations won’t last forever. Change gives us the opportunity to move on with our lives.

    We have to look at the positives of change and draw from that energy. We have to give change a chance to move us, teach us, and mold us into something new – something better.

    change-is-positive-2 Winds of ChangeHere are a few quotes that help to inspire the idea that change can be good if we allow it to happen naturally. Often we find that change allows us to regain ourselves, and start enjoying people places and things again. The winds of change can be very good.

    Here are a few life lesson quotes about change.

    • “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu
    • “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ― Rumi
    • “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ― Nelson Mandela
    • “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

    When the winds of change blow in your direction, I hope you will learn from them; and embrace them. Learn to change in a positive way that magnifies your life and allows you to appreciate the differences in circumstances. Change can be good if you let.

    Here are a few quotes that help to inspire the idea that change can be good if we allow it to happen naturally. Often we find that change allows us to regain ourselves, and start enjoying people places and things again. The winds of change can be very good.

    Here are a few life lesson quotes about change.

    • “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu
    • “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ― Rumi
    • “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ― Nelson Mandela
    • “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

    When the winds of change blow in your direction, I hope you will learn from them; and embrace them. Learn to change in a positive way that magnifies your life and allows you to appreciate the differences in circumstances. Change can be good if you let.

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    When the past becomes the guide

    When The Past Becomes The Guide

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    When The Past Becomes The Guide

    People tend to rely on the past as a means to prepare for the future.  While it is true we need to learn from our mistakes, are we allowing the past to control our future?

    Picking a time in my past that was riddled with mistakes and completely altered my life course, I ponder on how things could have gone differently.  We tend to focus only on the negative and often times allow that negativity to guide our present and future decisions.  Unfortunately, this way of thinking doesn’t help us resolve the conflicts or problems that haunt our memories.

    If we use the past as a guide and look for the things that went right instead of focusing on the negative,  we have a valuable tool at our disposal.  Using what we know today and incorporating the positive things of the past helps us make better future decisions.

    Past reflections:

    I recall a matter between an individual who was very close in the business sense as well as being a close friend.  I trusted this person with my back in every sense.  I knew he was going through an extreme amount of turmoil in his professional and family life.  I too was caught up in my own personal life struggles.  While we were very close,  we really didn’t know each other like we thought. If we could have looked at the struggles each of us was facing,  together, we might have avoided a head-on clash of wills.  A clash that would last for years.  An unfortunate error called “being human”.

    We each had our own set of values for life, complete with its checks and balances.  But were those checks and balances flawed?  Could either of us today remember the real story the way it really happened or did we just reflect the story as it related to our own concept of reality?    The pictures we have of life are often murky when we are facing difficulties.  Truth too often gets in the way.  Our anger and our feelings of being wounded cloud our better judgment.

    Letting the Past Guide the Way

    The upside to many of our past problems is knowing that the past is also filled with things that went right. Things that are good and bring light and happiness to the faces of those who care to remember.  If we use the things that went right we can help make the present much more relaxing, and the future peaceful.  Letting go of our flawed memories is a good start.

    I acknowledge that some things in the past need to stay there.  But for the honest mistakes and misunderstandings, the old saying Let It Go applies.   When the past becomes the guide you are on the path to regaining those valued relationships.   Trust can be re-established and friendships renewed, but it’s a focus on what went right that will get you there.









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    Work after the kids leave home

    Work after the kids leave home

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    Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

    Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

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    Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

    Have you ever come home and “fired yourself”?  Somedays are like that, and it takes us a long time to unwind from those moments that are a dig to our self-confidence.  Rebounding from those moments of self-disclosure are important.

    The day I allowed someone to steal my work. I had to start over and learn to trust again. I had to let go of the old me, and lean on the new me.

    In a working environment, I’m to the conclusion that if you aren’t in on key decisions and one of the movers and shakers – the fault may lie with them. “Them” being those in power, or above us in rank – someone else in the know. I’m not necessarily challenged by authority unless it has proven to be less than scrupulous.  So if the fault has to find a home, I hope it is with them, the movers and the shakers.

    But what if I am one of the movers and shakers? First, I don’t want someone else’s mistakes.  I want to start fresh and correct my own mistakes.  It’s a difficult task to jump into the middle of a project and take ownership.  Rather, it requires research and time; plus a sense of humility as you begin to deal with people who have no loyalty toward you at first.  You have to build those relationships and prove your worth.   Let others praise your work – there is greater value in that than praising yourself.  Humble yourself and you will be lifted up.

    Secondly, there are those who would like nothing better than to sit back and talk about opposing issues and add roadblocks to your designs, inventions, and other such handiwork. To those, I would refer to an old saying, “what other people think is really none of your business”.

    “What other people think is really none of your business”

    Somedays we have to just go home and fire ourselves.  That is such an awful word “fire” when used in the context of someone’s livelihood.  No one wants to lose a job – or asks to lose a job.  But it happens, for good or bad people get fired, laid off,  or suffer a reduction in force.   When you are the boss, the only person who can fire you is YOU!   That isn’t necessarily a bad thing when you are the boss.  Letting go of pieces of a project and learning to allow others through delegation to complete a task can be rewarding.  For one, you get rid of the stress, and two, you increase the value of one of your employees.

    Firing yourself doesn’t mean you can’t come back the next day with a better attitude.  Usually, when you get to this level you are ready for a change, a good swift kick in you know what, to mend those attitudes of displeasure.  Your own attitudes.

    When you walk in the door at work tomorrow give some thought to some valuable points when you do:

    1. You have a job
    2. People like working in a positive environment
    3. Money won’t buy you the thing you value most, respect of others
    4. Talk to the janitor – they know more than you think
    5. Be the janitor!
    6. Smile
    7. Shine it on
    8. Compliment someone who has earned a compliment – be sincere about that compliment
    9. Delegate if you can – but make it worthwhile to the delegatee.
    10. Rehire yourself

    It’s how you approach your life.  Not how others approach your life.  You make the final decision on how happy or successful you will be.  Success is measured in happiness.

    “Success is measured in happiness”

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    The “As Usual” series

    Content creator & writer, blogger, social and digital media advocate. JB was born with a passion for writing and instructional design. JB is the owner of Radcliff Design.

     

     

     

     

     


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    Giants and Monsters Everywhere – On My!

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    Giants and Monsters Everywhere - On My!

    Keeping with an October theme for Halloween,  I thought I would address the Giants and Monsters in our lives.   Be that our personal lives, our working environments, or where ever your giant monsters live. 

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    It's not hard to image a time when  you are sitting at your desk and the world is wonderful.  You are on top of your game, coworkers respect you, your clients rely on you, and you get satisfaction from mostly everything you do. Life is good.  The next day your world is shattered and left in ruin.   Shaking your head you can’t believe what is happening around you, why it is happening to you, and who’s to blame.  Something, or most likely someone sinister has just dug claws into your backside.  

    Being caught up in  maliciousness behavior from those in authority, or fellow co-workers – it all hurts the same.   The giant monster has just raised its ugly head, and it has a name; actually it has many names.  Names like:

    • Greed, gluttony, self-indulgence,  selfishness, indulgent, misleading
    •  deceiving,  dishonest, unreliable, deceitful, fraudulent, phony, sneaky
    • underhanded, insidious,  lying, mocking, scheming, shifty, treacherous
    • two-faced, and the list goes on. 

    I assume you get the point all too well.  What you don’t generally get is a way out of the situation.  Especially when the situation presents  you without  any warning.  What you need in these situations is  a means to  escape from the giant monster now beating at your door.  Seriously who actually plans for sinister life changing events brought on by others?

    Seriously who actually plans for sinister life changing events brought on by others?

    I have learned to plan for these types of attacks on some scale, but not all.  We all have those giant monsters that we have  to face in our lifetimes.   These giants come in all shapes and sizes.  While they can look overpowering and can plague us until we see no hope in escaping them – we generally still have that inner
    voice telling us to go on. Our giants often laugh in our faces, beating down at the walls we so carefully build up each day.  Yet,  that little voice can still be heard, ever so softly in the back ground saying, “keep going”.321 Giants and Monsters Everywhere - On My!

    Our giants often mock us and challenge us to come and defeat them.  Shaken to the core we have to run for our lives, cower in fear, or meet the aggressor on their own terms.  A lot of times the giant monsters are the comedians in the AAEAAQAAAAAAAAXMAAAAJDQxYTBhMGU0LWFiZTctNGU3NS04YjM5LTRjMzZiNzFlZmE3Yg Giants and Monsters Everywhere - On My!crowd, the know it all’s, and the blow-hard.  But not always, sometimes they are the quiet individual who is cold and calculating – so know your monsters.

    Once in a while life does throw us a bone and identifies a pathway out.  A pathway leading to triumph over adversity and challenge.  A pathway filled with a strategy which we use to bring about the defeat of the giant monsters we face.  If you see this pathway “TAKE IT”.  Stop making excuses it's time to take the giant monster down.

    If you see this pathway “ TAKE IT”.  Stop making excuses it's time to take the giant monster down.

    I am not one who believes in keeping your enemies (giants) close.  Rather,  ignoring them and keeping them at a distance is much more calculating and doesn’t produce additional stress.  Giving your enemy access to put their claws into you is a bad idea.  Some enemies have no filters for their aggressions. They simply strike out whenever they want.  There is no warning, no smoke signals – just volatile anger, and it can be over the simplest of things. AAEAAQAAAAAAAAUPAAAAJDQzM2JmOTZmLWVlNGItNDIwNS1iZmZmLTdmOWFkOTQ5MjNmOQ Giants and Monsters Everywhere - On My!Something as simple such as an IDEA, can set them off in your direction.

     You may think you haven’t done anything wrong, and you probably are right.   But if you think your enemy will be convinced of that fact, you are wasting your words.  You can’t fix things either – that only antagonizes the enemy more.  What I have learned is that the more you try to fix things the more the enemy sees those attempts as a way to undermine their position or status,  and or it stirs up feelings of  bitterness and expands the insecurity your enemy already has.

    Some people just don’t have a “fix it” meter.  They like controversy and if you feed into it – you give them power.   Does that sound  a little warped?  It is,   but that is how they operate.  You can’t fix them - their meter is broken, or the dipstick comes up empty.  All you can do is help yourself.  Build in escape routes so you can survive another day.

    It is time to take your Giant Monster down. 

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    Walk away and leave them alone.

    Once you leave the office have nothing to do with your giant monster.  Take a stance that you will become  unresponsiveness to  their bantering.  Become so firm in that stance, to the point they no longer have any control over your thoughts and actions on the job or off.   Don’t’ friend them on social media, volunteer at the same events, nor do luncheons for old time sake. 

    Fight your giant monsters where they live – in your head, in your office, in your school, or event.  Plan for giant monster meetings if you have to go into one.  Quickly trivialize their attempts to gain power over you.  Just brush it off and ignore their challenges.    Make sure you take the high road and they will become just another giant monster under the bed, and once they are there, you will be able to gently sweep them away. 

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    Monsters be gone.