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    How to Overcome that Career Hiccup – One Hiccup at a time

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    How to Overcome that Career Hiccup - One Hiccup at a time

    Everyone has one - that career hiccup.  The first thing I found out about myself after my career hiccup was that I had the ability to write whatever I wanted to, and not feel minimized by it.   I also no longer had to sit through those painful Monday morning meetings that felt like I was in a torture chamber.  It was a one-man show in those meetings, and no one was allowed an original idea.   All creativity was dismissed until it was needed by someone else: but by that time they had already put someone else's name on the idea. It was stifling to say the least.  Sound familiar?

    All creativity was dismissed until it was needed by someone else: but by that time they had already put someone else's name on the idea.

    In retrospect

    I have to say that my career hiccup was probably the best thing to ever happen to me.  Being able to go out into the general population and meet and greet people on my own terms has been so rewarding. I’m alive again.  It’s given me my sanity back, my compassion for others, and my awareness of just how short life is.  I've found my voice - and I will tell you what I think.

    Working under a dictator is not healthy for anyone.   At some point, you have to break free – and live for you. Work should never be overly controlling of your life nor continually depressing month end, year out.  Work is work, but there are limits to acceptability.  Sometimes you just have to walk away.

    In retrospect, I have to say that my career hiccup was probably the best thing to ever happen to me.

    Things to help you overcome your career hiccup:

    1. Write, and write a lot. Write that hiccup completely out of your system. Don’t post the negatives.  Leave them to wonder why
    2. Walk outside and smell the fresh air. Turn your face to the sunshine. Remove the rose-colored glasses
    3. Do something that you have longed to do, but were too afraid you would be judged inadequate for. Go out there, ride a Harley, sing karaoke
    4. Change your hairstyle, learn to ride a bike again, swim, go for walks – watch those late night movies, get a dog
    5. Ask for recommendations from the competitor, friend or foe
    6. Go to work for the competitor
    7. Don’t go seeking a vendetta, however. Life is too short to waste it on people who really don’t deserve any space in your life. Fate will get them in the end. Just leave it alone
    8. Volunteer for things outside your comfort zone – meet and greet new people
    9. Learn a new trade or expand on the skills you already have. Do on the job training to grow, or train others, teach
    10. Be happy that you get this opportunity to renew this part of your life

    Maybe a few items above sound trivial.  But until you have lost them in your loi-300x238 How to Overcome that Career Hiccup - One Hiccup at a timelife, you will never know how valuable they really are.  Maybe you do know.  Maybe you are walking that fine line between normal and not quite right.  Something has been eating at your insides.  Something "good" is missing.

    Working for a living is different than living for work.  Make the choice to be free of the squabbling and arrogant types.  Set up an environment that fits your new happy-go-lucky lifestyle, and breath.

    Live life your way

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    Change is positive

    Winds of Change

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    Winds of Change

     Time changes everything, and we need to be able to re-evaluate our own lives and the direction we are headed in. It doesn’t matter if the direction is one we have selected for ourselves, or one where life itself has lead us there unaware. Sometimes those things that we thought mattered most, are not important any longer. Rather, things that we overlooked or have forgotten from the past come closer to our new reality.

    Change is an emotional experience that reminds us that nothing is permanent. It teaches us to prioritize those things that are really important.

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    Change can mean loss, but it can also mean gaining as well. Changes can impact our lives right out of the blue without any time to accept what is happening to us; nor plan for what will come next. Sometimes you are just thrown into the mire and expected to sink or swim. There is a time of uncertainty where you do not know what is going to happen.

    Dealing with change isn’t always easy. You could try to forget about the change and get used to new items or circumstances. You can choose to Ignore the changes happen in your life. But in the end some level of acceptance has to take place.

    There are a number of factors that increase ones struggle to change. We have to learn that change happens for a reason. We have to learn to teach ourselves the truth. Not all change will have closure, but we have to learn to build those emotional bridges over that portion of our life so we can move past a particular moment in time.

    A number of quotes that emphasize overcoming change are as follows:

    • -Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future ~unknown
    • -The key to change… is to let go of fear ~unknown
    • -Change is the essence of life ~Reinhold Niebuhr
    • -Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become~ Reinhold Niebuhr
    • -Ecclesiastes 3: 1-22 ~The Bible

    Benefits of Change

    Unknown opportunities and new experiences are a benefit that can come from change. While change is inevitable in everything we do, change keeps life interesting, and ensure that bad situations won’t last forever. Change gives us the opportunity to move on with our lives.

    We have to look at the positives of change and draw from that energy. We have to give change a chance to move us, teach us, and mold us into something new – something better.

    change-is-positive-2 Winds of ChangeHere are a few quotes that help to inspire the idea that change can be good if we allow it to happen naturally. Often we find that change allows us to regain ourselves, and start enjoying people places and things again. The winds of change can be very good.

    Here are a few life lesson quotes about change.

    • “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu
    • “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ― Rumi
    • “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ― Nelson Mandela
    • “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

    When the winds of change blow in your direction, I hope you will learn from them; and embrace them. Learn to change in a positive way that magnifies your life and allows you to appreciate the differences in circumstances. Change can be good if you let.

    Here are a few quotes that help to inspire the idea that change can be good if we allow it to happen naturally. Often we find that change allows us to regain ourselves, and start enjoying people places and things again. The winds of change can be very good.

    Here are a few life lesson quotes about change.

    • “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu
    • “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ― Rumi
    • “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ― Nelson Mandela
    • “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

    When the winds of change blow in your direction, I hope you will learn from them; and embrace them. Learn to change in a positive way that magnifies your life and allows you to appreciate the differences in circumstances. Change can be good if you let.

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    When the past becomes the guide

    When The Past Becomes The Guide

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    When The Past Becomes The Guide

    People tend to rely on the past as a means to prepare for the future.  While it is true we need to learn from our mistakes, are we allowing the past to control our future?

    Picking a time in my past that was riddled with mistakes and completely altered my life course, I ponder on how things could have gone differently.  We tend to focus only on the negative and often times allow that negativity to guide our present and future decisions.  Unfortunately, this way of thinking doesn’t help us resolve the conflicts or problems that haunt our memories.

    If we use the past as a guide and look for the things that went right instead of focusing on the negative,  we have a valuable tool at our disposal.  Using what we know today and incorporating the positive things of the past helps us make better future decisions.

    Past reflections:

    I recall a matter between an individual who was very close in the business sense as well as being a close friend.  I trusted this person with my back in every sense.  I knew he was going through an extreme amount of turmoil in his professional and family life.  I too was caught up in my own personal life struggles.  While we were very close,  we really didn’t know each other like we thought. If we could have looked at the struggles each of us was facing,  together, we might have avoided a head-on clash of wills.  A clash that would last for years.  An unfortunate error called “being human”.

    We each had our own set of values for life, complete with its checks and balances.  But were those checks and balances flawed?  Could either of us today remember the real story the way it really happened or did we just reflect the story as it related to our own concept of reality?    The pictures we have of life are often murky when we are facing difficulties.  Truth too often gets in the way.  Our anger and our feelings of being wounded cloud our better judgment.

    Letting the Past Guide the Way

    The upside to many of our past problems is knowing that the past is also filled with things that went right. Things that are good and bring light and happiness to the faces of those who care to remember.  If we use the things that went right we can help make the present much more relaxing, and the future peaceful.  Letting go of our flawed memories is a good start.

    I acknowledge that some things in the past need to stay there.  But for the honest mistakes and misunderstandings, the old saying Let It Go applies.   When the past becomes the guide you are on the path to regaining those valued relationships.   Trust can be re-established and friendships renewed, but it’s a focus on what went right that will get you there.









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    Work after the kids leave home

    Work after the kids leave home

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    Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

    Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

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    Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

    Have you ever come home and “fired yourself”?  Somedays are like that, and it takes us a long time to unwind from those moments that are a dig to our self-confidence.  Rebounding from those moments of self-disclosure are important.

    The day I allowed someone to steal my work. I had to start over and learn to trust again. I had to let go of the old me, and lean on the new me.

    In a working environment, I’m to the conclusion that if you aren’t in on key decisions and one of the movers and shakers – the fault may lie with them. “Them” being those in power, or above us in rank – someone else in the know. I’m not necessarily challenged by authority unless it has proven to be less than scrupulous.  So if the fault has to find a home, I hope it is with them, the movers and the shakers.

    But what if I am one of the movers and shakers? First, I don’t want someone else’s mistakes.  I want to start fresh and correct my own mistakes.  It’s a difficult task to jump into the middle of a project and take ownership.  Rather, it requires research and time; plus a sense of humility as you begin to deal with people who have no loyalty toward you at first.  You have to build those relationships and prove your worth.   Let others praise your work – there is greater value in that than praising yourself.  Humble yourself and you will be lifted up.

    Secondly, there are those who would like nothing better than to sit back and talk about opposing issues and add roadblocks to your designs, inventions, and other such handiwork. To those, I would refer to an old saying, “what other people think is really none of your business”.

    “What other people think is really none of your business”

    Somedays we have to just go home and fire ourselves.  That is such an awful word “fire” when used in the context of someone’s livelihood.  No one wants to lose a job – or asks to lose a job.  But it happens, for good or bad people get fired, laid off,  or suffer a reduction in force.   When you are the boss, the only person who can fire you is YOU!   That isn’t necessarily a bad thing when you are the boss.  Letting go of pieces of a project and learning to allow others through delegation to complete a task can be rewarding.  For one, you get rid of the stress, and two, you increase the value of one of your employees.

    Firing yourself doesn’t mean you can’t come back the next day with a better attitude.  Usually, when you get to this level you are ready for a change, a good swift kick in you know what, to mend those attitudes of displeasure.  Your own attitudes.

    When you walk in the door at work tomorrow give some thought to some valuable points when you do:

    1. You have a job
    2. People like working in a positive environment
    3. Money won’t buy you the thing you value most, respect of others
    4. Talk to the janitor – they know more than you think
    5. Be the janitor!
    6. Smile
    7. Shine it on
    8. Compliment someone who has earned a compliment – be sincere about that compliment
    9. Delegate if you can – but make it worthwhile to the delegatee.
    10. Rehire yourself

    It’s how you approach your life.  Not how others approach your life.  You make the final decision on how happy or successful you will be.  Success is measured in happiness.

    “Success is measured in happiness”

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    Content creator & writer, blogger, social and digital media advocate. JB was born with a passion for writing and instructional design. JB is the owner of Radcliff Design.