How to Overcome that Career Hiccup – One Hiccup at a time

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How to Overcome that Career Hiccup – One Hiccup at a time

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How to Overcome that Career Hiccup - One Hiccup at a time

Everyone has one - that career hiccup.  The first thing I found out about myself after my career hiccup was that I had the ability to write whatever I wanted to, and not feel minimized by it.   I also no longer had to sit through those  painful Monday morning meetings that felt  like I was in a torture chamber.  It was a one man show in those meetings, and no one was allowed an original idea.   All creativity was dismissed until it was needed by someone else: but by that time they had already put someone else's name on the idea. It was stifling to say the least.  Sound familiar? 

All creativity was dismissed until it was needed by someone else: but by that time they had already put someone else's name on the idea.

In retrospect I have to say that my career hiccup was probably the best thing to ever happen to me.  Being able to go out into the general population and meet and greet people on my own terms has been so rewarding. I’m alive again.  It’s given me my sanity back, my compassion for others, and my awareness of just how short life is.  I've found my voice - and I will tell you what I think.  

Working under a dictator is not healthy for anyone.   At some point you have to break free – and live for you. Work should never be overly controlling of your life nor  continually depressing month end, year out.  Work is work, but there are limits to acceptability.  Sometimes you just have to walk away. 

In retrospect I have to say that my career hiccup was probably the best thing to ever happen to me.

Things to help you overcome your career hiccup:

  1. Write, and write a lot. Write that hiccup completely out of your system. Don’t post the negatives.  Leave them to wonder why
  2. Walk outside and smell the fresh air. Turn your face to the sunshine. Remove the rose colored glasses
  3. Do something that you have longed to do, but were too afraid you would be judged inadequate for. Go out there, ride a Harley, sing karaoke 
  4. Change your hair style, learn to ride a bike again, swim, go for walks – watch those late night movies, get a dog
  5. Ask for recommendations from the competitor, friend or foe
  6. Go to work for the competitor
  7. Don’t go seeking a vendetta however. Life is too short to waste it on people who really don’t deserve any space in your life. Fate will get them in the end. Just leave it alone
  8. Volunteer for things outside your comfort zone – meet and greet new people
  9. Learn a new trade or expand on the skills you already have. Do on job training to grow, or train others, teach
  10. Be happy that you get this opportunity to renew this part of your life  

Maybe a few items above sound trivial.  But until you have lost them in your loi-300x238 How to Overcome that Career Hiccup - One Hiccup at a timelife, you will never know how valuable they really are.  Maybe you do know.  Maybe you are walking that fine line between normal and not quite right.  Something has been eating at your insides.  Something "good" is missing.  

Working for a living is different than living for work.  Make the choice to be free of the squabbling and  arrogant types.  Set up an environment that fits your new happy-go-lucky life style, and breath.

Live life your way   

Cool Waves


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When The Past Becomes The Guide

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When The Past Becomes The Guide

People tend to rely on the past as a means to prepare for the future.  While it is true we need to learn from our mistakes, are we allowing the past to control our future? 

Picking a time in my past that  was riddled with mistakes and completely  altered  my life course, I ponder on how things could have gone differently.  We tend to focus only on the negative and often times allow that negativity to guide our present and future decisions.  Unfortunately, this way of thinking doesn't help us resolve the conflicts or problems that haunt our memories.  

If we use the past as a guide and look for the things that went right instead of focusing on the negative,  we have a valuable tool at our disposal.  Using what we know today and incorporating the positive things of the past helps us make better future decisions. 

Past reflections:  

I recall a matter between an individual who was very close in the business sense as well as being a close friend.  I trusted this person with my back in every sense.  I knew he was going through an extreme amount of turmoil in his professional and family life.  I too was caught up in my own personal life struggles.  While we were very close,  we really didn't know each other like we thought. If we could have looked at the struggles each of us  was facing,  together, we might have avoided a head-on clash of wills.  A clash that would last for years.  An unfortunate error called "being human". 

 We each had our own set of values for life, complete with  it's checks and balances.  But were those checks and balances flawed?  Could either of us today remember the real story the way it really happened or did we just reflect the story as it  related to our own concept of reality?    The pictures we have of life  are  often murky when we are facing difficulties.  Truth too often gets in the way.  Our anger and our feelings of being wounded cloud our better judgment. 

Letting the Past Guide the Way

The upside  to many of our  past problems  is knowing that  the past is also  filled with things that went right. Things that are good and bring light and happiness to the faces of those who care to remember.  If we use the things that went right we can help make the present much more relaxing, and the future peaceful.  Letting go of our  flawed memories is a good start. 

I acknowledge that some things in the past need to stay there.  But for the honest mistakes and misunderstandings the old saying Let It Go  applies.   When the past becomes the guide  you are on the path to regaining those valued relationships.   Trust can be re-established and friendships renewed, but it's a focus on what went right that will get you there. 


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Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

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Have You Ever Fired Yourself?

Have you ever come home and "fired yourself"?  Somedays are like that, and it takes us a long time to unwind from those moments that are a dig to our self-confidence.  Rebounding from those moments of self-disclosure are important.

In a working environment, I'm to the conclusion that if you aren't in on key decisions and one of the movers and shakers - the fault may lie with them. “Them” being those in power, or above us in rank - someone else in the know. I’m not necessarily challenged by authority unless it has proven to be less than scrupulous.  So if the fault has to find a home, I hope it is with them, the movers and the shakers.  

But what if I am one of the movers and shakers? First, I don't want someone else's mistakes.  I want to start fresh and correct my own mistakes.  It's a difficult task to jump into the middle of a project and take ownership.  Rather, it requires research and time; plus a sense of humility  as you begin to deal with people who have no loyalty toward you at first.  You have to build those relationships and prove your worth.   Let others praise your work - there is greater value in that  than praising yourself.  Humble yourself and you will be lifted up.

Secondly, there are those who would like nothing better than to sit back and talk about opposing issues, and add roadblocks to your designs, inventions, and other such handiwork. To those, I would refer to an old saying, “what other people think is really none of your business”.

“What other people think is really none of your business”

Somedays we have to just go home and fire ourselves.  That is such an awful word “fire” when used in the  context of someone's livelihood.  No one wants to lose a job - or asks to lose a job.  But it happens, for good or bad people get fired, laid off,  or suffer a reduction in force.   When you are the boss, the only person who can fire you is YOU!   That isn’t necessarily a bad thing when you are the boss.  Letting go of pieces of a project and learning to allow others through delegation to complete a task can be rewarding.  For one, you get rid of the stress, and two, you increase the value of one of your employees.  

Firing yourself doesn’t mean you can’t come back the next day with a better attitude.  Usually when you get to this level you are ready for a change, a good swift kick in the you know what, to mend those attitudes of displeasure.  Your own attitudes.

When you walk into the door at work tomorrow give some thought to some valuable points when you do:

  1. You have a job
  2. People like working in a positive environment
  3. Money won’t buy you the thing you value most, respect of others
  4. Talk to the janitor - they know more than you think
  5. Be the janitor!
  6. Smile
  7. Shine it on
  8. Compliment someone who has earned a compliment - be sincere about that compliment
  9. Delegate if you can - but make it worthwhile to the delegatee.
  10. Rehire yourself

It’s how you approach your life.  Not how others approach your life.  You make the final decision on how happy or successful you will be.  Success is measured in happiness.  

"Success is measured in happiness"  

 


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But I Like My Rose Colored Glasses

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But I Like My Rose Colored Glasses

Not that anyone would notice, but I kind of like my rose colored glasses.  Ten years ago maybe not, but  today - you bet.  I look at the world around me and I find myself at times wanting to shut it out.  Being a normally happy-go-lucky person, saying I want to shut the world out is a big statement for me.  

I think age changes how we spend our free time, and who we choose to spend it with.  While a few of my friends could still be accused of running around with a lampshade on their head,  a larger number of them have graduated to being a bonified home body. I find myself stuck in the middle of my friends -   I'm not a wild child, nor a doormat.  But when the two sides get to be over-whelming for me - out come my rose colored glasses.  Glasses needed to be able to fit all those around me into that neat little mind box.

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Glasses needed to be able to fit all those around me into that neat little mind box. 

Age (and my glasses)  makes  tolerance for others easier.  It also makes me more aware of the little things that often get overlooked.  But with my rose colored glasses that is all I am searching for anyways - the little things

From Monday to Friday, or whatever the workweek looks like - finding those spare moments to look at the positive and not focus on the negative aspects of the job are important.  It is okay if you take a peek through your rose colored glasses if you need a pick me up once in a while.  What they help you understand is: 

1. You have a job 

2. Maybe you have a great position or work with others on a wonderful project

3. Maybe you have the ability to do what you want on the job, and people trust you. 

4. Maybe you are the employee morale builder. 

Whatever your circumstances, see number one above if you on the bridge of your nose and look forward.  I don't understand how people can be so dissatisfied with just having enough.  Maybe until people begin to  understand what it is like to not have enough -that  they will begin to see things through a different lens.  

If you have something, something you earned - then life is good.  If you have nothing, and you haven't earned anything, make personal changes in your life.  Do whatever it is to help yourself feel satisfied.  Not too much, not too little, just enough to afford a set of rose colored glasses.  You'll need them. 


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What battles should we fight

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What battles should we fight, and can we bring duck-tape?